Pandemic Dressing Takes a Dark Turn


I don’t truly ponder after I pulled the black Everlane pants out of the drawer and onto my physique. Was it spring, after the lockdown started and we now have now been nonetheless doing videoconference joyful hours for satisfying? Or the summer season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season, when the rhythms of distant work appeared to settle in? Or the autumn, after I began to see my co-workers do parts like positioned on earrings for a meeting whereas I was nonetheless making an attempt to cope with up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up up the digital digicam off for as long as doable?

Recalling the pants’ entrance into pandemic life is troublesome as a outcomes of this categorical pair of pants — priced at $98, product of an Italian wool trademarked as GoWeave — is supposed to transcend anyone season. What this suggests is that it isn’t acceptable for any season. They are too scorching in summer season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season season, too flimsy contained all by the winter, merely soaked by spring showers and … successfully, they’re OK contained all by the autumn.

The affords feels low value, though. I hate the fabric. I hate the match. They squeeze my thighs after I pull them as a lot as my pure waist and flatten my butt as shortly as they fall to my hips. They are cumbersome with out retaining me warmth, and there’s no shirt which can make the awkward measurement — too prolonged to be “short pants,” too momentary to cowl my ankles — work all by the least. And nonetheless, beginning in September, I have been carrying them a minimal of three circumstances a week.

This is, as I have been telling anyone who will hear, a “hate-wear.” I am now hate-wearing garments.

The Everlane pants aren’t the one merchandise that I am hate-wearing. I’ve a lot of T-shirts that I dislike for a variety of causes — dumb logos of tech corporations, weird sizing, pricey affords nonetheless unhealthy coloration — and nonetheless moreover positioned on. These, a minimal of, are principally cozy.

The essence of a hate-wear is that it isn’t about pondering you look unhealthy in a single draw as shortly as further (which is weak to be objectively true). It’s pretty frequent to have objects of garments that you just merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely love even for a lot of who occur to don’t suppose you look considerably good in them. The inverse would possibly even be true. You can have a costume that you just merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely merely suppose makes you look good, though you don’t truly equal to the merchandise itself a lot.

A hate-wear is everytime you positioned on the garments though — as a outcomes of? — it makes you truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly 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truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly truly really truly truly really truly really truly really truly actually really feel unhealthy. Neither fashionable nor considerably cozy, nonetheless on a widespread foundation in rotation.

This earlier yr has been uncommon and horrible in so many different strategies. Everyone has had a completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely 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completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely completely fully completely fully fully fully fully fully completely fully fully completely different pandemic, as a outcomes of the sickness shattered our social compacts and laid bare the infrastructure of our lives. Not determining the turning into methodology to costume is the least of anyone’s parts, even mine. But we nonetheless do (principally) ought to positioned on clothes. For these of us who now earn a dwelling from dwelling, that has resulted in some weird alternate picks.

For my buddy Sonal Kaur, a 37-year-old designer in Brooklyn, this has meant avoiding the mirrors in her residence. After I despatched out a tweet about hate-wearing garments, she despatched me a image of herself in a shirt, sweater, pants and socks as an illustration her private matches, with some commentary.

“Uncomfortable sweatpants? 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(The socks, to be dependable, have been halfway off her ft in a look that resonated deeply with me. I moreover stroll spherical the house with the uncomfortable feeling of a sock that is about to fall off, and I merely can’t be bothered to tug it up.)

The unhealthy feelings about objects of garments would possibly very appropriately be tied to particular 2020 recollections. Carly Chalmers, 32, a promoting and selling and promoting supervisor in Toronto, wrote on Twitter that “the wool blend sweater I wore basically every day of spring lockdown suddenly became a symbol of stress and sadness.” She ended up donating it rather than facing her Covid sweater every day.

The locus of my personal clothing habits is a bit more difficult to pin down. When the pandemic started, I had just started going back into my office for a new job after having my second child.

The previous year had been chaotic, filled with hormones and changes and a layoff and the death of my mother-in-law, and I was desperate for this office job to reorient my sense of self. So desperate, in fact, that I volunteered to go back months earlier than my generous leave policy offered.

To get ready to be myself again, an adult professional, I bought a new leather bag. None of my non-maternity clothing fit, although I did try to jam my body into pants with buttons and old Spanx. The lockdown started about a week after I returned to work, making my bag seem so sad, a small buoy on an ocean pulling me back into my house.

When we got babysitters over the summer, I had a bit more mental space to think about how I appeared to others, and myself, but the picture was cloudy.

Of course I didn’t know what to wear; I didn’t know who I was. When I left the house — mostly to walk a few blocks and then turn around — I obsessively clocked people’s outfits for any hints of what I could be. (A lot of leggings and sneakers. Workout wear. Not helpful.) Hence, hate-wear. Like an old wannabe goth, I wear ill-fitting black pants on the outside because that is how I feel on the inside.

The closest I’ve seen this kind of behavior reflected in pop culture is the Frances McDormand character Jane in Nicole Holofcener’s 2006 movie, “Friends With Money.” I think about Jane all the time. She’s a successful clothing designer in Los Angeles with a strong marriage and kids she seems to like, but she has stopped washing her hair. When her friends confront her about it, she brushes them off. “I’m just tired,” she tells her husband.

To be fair, there are some other signs that she’s troubled — she has an epic fit at an Old Navy when someone cuts her in line — but I love how the movie doesn’t treat her like someone who is completely nonfunctional. Eventually you learn she is having a kind of midlife crisis.

“I feel like there’s no more wondering what it’s going to be like,” she says toward the end of the film. “What’s it going to be like. My fabulous life.”

Jane did not “let herself go” in the stereotypical (and sexist) harried-mother trope; her ever-more-disgusting hair more intentional. This is how Claire Howorth, an executive editor of Vanity Fair, sees the hate-wear phenomenon: “less letting yourself go, more forcing yourself to be gone.”

“We are all sitting at home, largely unseen and unfelt by one another, floating in this endless ether that is the wait for this pandemic to be over, and so our dressing,” Ms. Howorth, 39, wrote in an email, “can express a bizarre cry for help.”

Floating. Ether. Help. Now that it’s officially winter, I will say that I don’t wear my terrible pants as much as I used to. Another force has stepped into the void: consumer escapism. You can now buy sweatpants at a variety of prices and fabrics and colors, so I took my unresolved sense of self and just started searching online for sales.

Google, perhaps suspecting that we’d like to pretend to be someone else in a different place, added a variety of backgrounds to its video calls, so now I attend meetings from a candy-coated cloud.

But some hate-wear still manages to slip through. For some reason, there is always a bunch of orange knit Carhartt hats lying around the house. They are blindingly bright; they feel like a Brooklyn cliché; they press the top of my hair down while empowering the sides to rise up, Bozo the Clown style. And yet, more often than not, I will grab one off the dresser in the morning and put it on for the day.

At least, this hate-wear keeps my head warm.



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